Play It Forward I couldn’t have predicted that my acquaintance from the library would one day introduce me to the woman of my dreams. But the truth is many of our decisions lead to fairly predictable consequences. And if we learn to choose well, we can connect the dots between where we are and where we want to be. For example, most people with healthy, secure, loving marriages know that such marriages take a little work each day, every day (and sometimes more). Learning how to parent well is similar.